Passion is the Fuel that Powers Your Purpose

Jan 31, 2023

Faisal: All right, for those who are tuning in and for those who have watched it before, this is the second video in our series. The last time we talked about purpose. If you have not checked that out, go to my LinkedIn, you'll find it there. I will post that link under this video as well.

So excited to be here with awesome Kelly. I actually call her awesome Kelly. That's how she's saved my contacts, Literally. On my phone. we're really excited to talk about passion today, and I'll actually start this off with a quick story, and then Kelly can jump in after that.

Are you good with that, Kelly? 

Kelly: Absolutely. Let's go. 

Faisal: Did you wanna share something before I jump in? 

Kelly: If you guys are watching this live, let us know. Say hi. Tell us where you're tuning in from, type a one. If you're watching it live, if it's a replay, if you catch the replay, write two. We just wanna be able to have conversations with you, the community.

So, we hope you can find a nugget or a takeaway from today's live experience. 

Faisal: For sure. Thank you. Thanks for sharing that. Kelly. So I wanted to share a little bit about passion, because this has been, for me, this has been, I would say, at least a 15-year journey to get to a point where I can say, 

how I'm living in my life is based on my passion. What matters to me, what matters to my heart, what matters to my soul, and what I, what I'll share with you is just a few years ago, I remember I used to take the subway down in Toronto region, subway in, take the subway down to downtown from the uptown region.

In Toronto, if you are from Toronto, it's around North York and every time I remember I used to go to this shop and I would get the unhealthiest thing possible. It was like, a Jamaican patty. I would grab that. It was really good, so I don't know of any other place that had it that good. It was really good.

And I would take that and I remember as soon as I would walk down the stairs, I would get these series of thoughts like, what the hell are you doing with your life? You're disconnected from your family, from your religion, from your path. It's like a series of thoughts. And I didn't have social media at that time.

I didn't have a smartphone, so I did know how to distract myself. Either I didn't have those flip phones and I used to, I think, carry an MP3 player. I would have, some things on that just to distract myself, but it would be really hard. I would get a series of thoughts and then the feeling was completely complete.

Disconnection from my life, afraid I don't know what I'm doing and then go straight to work. And right after that, go straight to the bar. That was my life pretty much. And to the outside, it looks like, oh, I was having a lot of fun. I was meeting people, I was connecting with people.

And even though I had convinced myself that I was doing the same thing. But the reality was that I was running away from my life. I was in pain. I felt completely disconnected from everything. I didn't know how to connect with my family. I didn't know how to connect with my passion, with my purpose in life.

And I didn't know a word to find. To be honest. And a few years later something happened, which I can share about that later, but just abusing my own body getting addicted to alcohol, drugs, and so many things got to a stopping point for me where I had to take a backseat. Basically, my own system forced me to do that, and that pushed me to kind of realize, okay, whatever I'm doing is not working.

Mm-hmm. and the pain of that pushed me towards more curiosity. And the curiosity came in, okay, well, I don't know what's going on. What, what do I care about? Well, the most important thing I cared about is I really wanted to learn. I really wanted to understand why nothing was working for me, at least from my perception.

And that led me on a path of self-discovery where it got me to think about, okay, how do other people think about this? How have human beings been thinking about this for generations, for in our history? How do we make sense of this from a psychological standpoint, from a spiritual standpoint, I went into that rabbit hole and I figured out a lot of things.

It actually raised more questions than it answered in the questions. But what I discovered on that path was that I actually had a deep interest in learning more than anything else, more specifically learning about my own nature, learning about who I was deep down. And that became a really important interest for me.

And there are other interests I have, but there's nothing that I'm interested in more than trying to understand who I am at my core. And everything I do is around that awareness. So the business that I have, the kind of life that I've created, the ventures that I've created, the consistent learning and growth that I've created in my life, everything revolves around who am I at my core. 

It sounds odd and maybe it sounds weird to some people around that, but, that pumps me up more than anything else. When I find any kind of insight around that, whether through those are through my experiences or through, those are through my through me just learning from books or those are through interactions like, Those are through me going on stage and talking to people or how through retreats, any kind of interaction with people or my own experience, that pumps me up more than anything else, and that drives a lot of my purpose as well.

Because nobody has to give me money. Nobody has to give me anything for me to do that, because I will do that regardless. It's a bonus for me to have a business surrounded by that. It's a bonus for me to have so many amazing people surrounded around that theme. It's a bonus for me to get all the other things that I get based on that experience.

So the reason why I share this is that that passion for me drives everything else. And it's sustainable and I can override pretty much anything for that. I can override days when I'm incredibly tired, days when there are challenges at home in my life when I'm dealing with sickness, and when I'm dealing with all sorts of challenges that we deal with on a day-to-day basis.

That passion really drives me to keep moving forward, not because I'm pushing myself or hustling, but because that just told me. And that also connects with my bigger purpose of supporting people. Become aware of who they are, because what ended up happening with me is that as I started to kind of see the light at the end of the tunnel, that oh, we're more than just a collection of thoughts and impulses and beliefs that were given, then I'm like, holy shoot.

What would other people get out of it if they get an inkling of it? And that pumps me up to a whole other level because I want to spread that in my community and in the world with the people around me. So, that's what passion to me means. Is that, to me, feels connected to my heart, my soul, who I am at my core.

Nobody needs to tell me that. For me to move towards that, and I want you to think about it, what is that for you? Have you discovered that? Or, and, and maybe that's not a one-time thing. Maybe it's allowing yourself to go towards that. What would that mean? And it doesn't have to be the thing that I'm saying, it could be anything on your path.

And I'll kind of pass it on to Kelly and, and get her thoughts on this. 

Kelly: That was good. First of all, like thank you. Just wanna acknowledge you for being totally transparent, because I feel like, I mean, I'll just speak on both of our halves. If you start following along on the story now you miss, how it came to fruition, how the passion was unfolded, and how your purpose came to.

So a lot of times, I think that we don't share enough about it. The struggle, you know, so it's like, that's real, but in that, you were refined and found the passion, so, and your purpose. I love that. To me when we're jamming out on this topic, I like to give a very basic, tangible example that someone could wrap their head around because my personal opinion is you're gonna find what you're looking for.

So if you decide, hey, I wanna start to figure out what my purpose is, What's my why? What's my bigger why? But you're not open to receiving or you haven't done any work to surrender your own way. I think it's kind of hard to see. We have these red light dashboards, g p s, like boo boo, boo boop, boop.

But if your eyes are open to receive, you can't find it. So the example I want to share if you're watching or tuning in, is it would be similar to going to a restaurant and thinking I'm not hungry. Say it's an Italian restaurant and you're not a fan of Italian, I'm not hungry. There's nothing gonna be here for me.

I don't like anything on the menu. You're gonna have a very hard and unlikely time finding food you're going to enjoy. So I think that's the same mentality you can step into. You have to curate space to lean in and discover and be open to things that you may not have thought of. So it can come to fruition almost because even like me, full-time pivoting to a mindset like three or four years ago, it wasn't exactly on my radar and it didn't happen in the way I thought it was gonna happen.

And if I wouldn't have gone through an experience previous to that where it was full surrender. My blueprint was different than the blueprint I had laid out. So by surrendering, I was able to receive and be open to opportunities that are actually way bigger than I could have ever thought about on my own.

But it started with a little seed. It started with a thought. It started with me curating time and space to hear, and what you said. For me, I went on a big journey of unbecoming. Like through what the world and society and how we grow up and the environment like. For me, it wasn't even originally until later in life actually, to be completely transparent, until 39, 20 18.

It was like, boom. You go to school, you go to college. I went to school to be an education, I was a teacher, and then boom. It wasn't until this other situation was brought upon us that I even thought outside the box. So I feel like you have to give yourself, the space to dream and feel and receive and think about what you already enjoy doing.

And I do think there's a place for hobbies. And then I think there's a place for your purpose and your passion, you don't have to monetize all your hobbies. That is something that I think that's good to think about cuz some people think, oh, this is my purpose and how can I monetize it?

Not every purpose is monetized. 

Faisal: I, I love that and I love that you gave a tangible example around the restaurant. Is that, I'm just picturing myself going into an Italian restaurant, If I need some clarification about Italian food, I'll be like, oh, I don't like their pasta. I don't like this, I don't like that.

And I haven't actually looked at the menu. And this Italian restaurant might be a little bit different. Maybe they're offering a few things I haven't even looked at, but I'm not looking at the menu. I'm like, well, no, I'll eat some somewhere else cuz this is not for me. And I haven't even looked at the menu.

So that's not being open to exploring what is important to you and the beginning part of it. Even if you're, cuz a lot of people might think, well, no, the, the time to explore and do these things is when you were younger, but you might be in your thirties, or forties. And, Kelly's sharing like she was 39 and I was, when I started kind of thinking through this stuff, I was in my late twenties and early thirties.

But even this is a journey. It's like, the path that you're on. I've never said, oh, I'm completely clear about my purpose. Right? I don't know exactly what mine is because I'm growing and evolving on this path, so wherever you are in your life, the time to explore never stops because you might have your, as Kelly was talking about, your blueprint might have shifted.

The things that felt aligned with you just a few months ago might not be the case right now. This is actually a big challenge in relationships as well. A lot of people when they're in, intimate relationships, they go through this period where, they're both growing, but they don't know that they're growing.

So each of them has a picture of the other person from the past, and they're looking at them from that lens, and they keep running into challenges and they don't realize that they are not taking into account what's actually happening because there's not enough time spent together. There are not enough connection points.

They're not enough presence. Life is too busy, and that same thing happens to us. We don't realize that we're evolving as we're going, going through life. We don't check-in. And as Kelly said, we don't give ourselves enough space to discover, who we are right now, and where is our growth. This is why stepping away from your life becomes really important.

And that could mean just taking 30 minutes a day. And we talked about that last time. Go away for the weekend, and spend some time alone. Take, get out of your environment. Go on vacation if you can. Whatever it takes. Don't go to get inebriated, go to just give yourself some space 

Kelly: put a bandaid on what you're feeling, where you're drinking it, shopping it, smoking it. Don't band-aid it. Feel it, feel it. We have to say, feel it. 

Faisal: I don't know where I heard this, the person who can spend time alone is probably one of the most powerful people there is because it's actually difficult to spend time alone with your own thoughts and emotions, right?

Kelly: That's why most people don't. It's scary.  I always like to say slow down to speed up, but if you're a high achiever, if you're a performer, if you're go, go, go. The thought of slowing down is like torture because then most of us not, I'm not gonna lump some anybody, but I'll just speak into myself.

Because I was chasing money the first time around. We built our companies, so I never stopped to think it was onto the next, onto the next, onto the next, onto the next, onto the next. There's no room to feel healed and deal with because you're not even giving yourself a chance to slow down. Cause it's too scary.

Cuz then all the stuff boils and bubbles up to the top. Yeah. So it's a form of self-sabotage and in a way, it's a form of self-sabotage by not allowing yourself to slow down and feel. 

Faisal: Yeah. And, maybe the question we can get you to think about is that are there any areas in your life where you're distracting yourself and distraction might come up and show up in the form of you're constantly going on TikTok and social media, or you're drinking a lot every day, and you're saying, oh, that's just a thing I do casually, but it's six, seven times a day a week, or you're just always around people and you don't give yourself enough space.

You're always trying to fulfill other people's expectations, or you're going shopping constantly. Whatever form that distraction takes is, it's a, it's a signal from your own life saying that, Hey, you are running away from something and, giving yourself the space to feel that, while that might be difficult and going through the thoughts that will help you see what's happening.

And if you feel like you are not able to do that, reach out to us. Reach out to us to help you kind of work through that, whether it's Kelly or I. but that becomes the process of becoming free and open because nobody is free if they're a prisoner in their own mind, most people are, unfortunately. 

Kelly: Boom. I always say, your ego is not your amigo and that's a beautiful statement to what you dislike. 

Faisal: I love that your ego is not your amigo 

Kelly:I just did a class on that. Your ego's not your amigo, but it's like, To segue in like once you cultivate, I think step one is slowing down.

I usually say short-term. You're sitting in your shit short term. And that's where you have to feel healed and deal. So I think a another thing is it feels scary because as young people I don't think that we were taught necessarily how to process emotions and how to feel. Most of us it's like, Dry it up, quit crying, let's go pull it together.

So I think it's scary because some people maybe don't slow down cause they don't have the right tools to know how to process what they're feeling. So it just feels too much. So it feels safer to keep going. So that's why tools are super important cuz you have to know once the awareness is created and these things come up, what do you do with it?

And that's where. You have to. So step one is cultivating the awareness, and step two is the discovery phase, and then what do you do with it? And when you discover your passion, is it gonna be something just for you and that's okay too? Or is it going to be part of your business or part of your plan that you're cultivating and you are gonna monetize?

And, that's another level because I've had several passions in my life that at one point in time, I thought like at one point in time I was fitness and mindset. But then I discovered I don't wanna monetize the fitness. That doesn't excite me. It's my own personal passion. But the mindset, like you, I could wake up, I could eat, breathe, sleep.

I'm gonna nerd out. It's my Super bowl, and I'm gonna study the brain all day long. So that's the difference. That's how I knew that this one piece was just for me, and this other piece was for the world and the community because it's so in me. I can't stop it, you know what I mean? 

Faisal: Yeah. No, I love that.

I love that. And, and that's what I was referring to is that there are things that you're gonna, you're gonna put in a different category as you move through them. So there was a time when I was. Like I wanted to just interact with people one-on-one a lot in my practice, most of what I did was one-on-one coaching.

I wasn't too much in social media or anything like that. It was mostly in the backend. I did that for like three, or four years, but there was a point, something shifted. I still do that, but that became less, and I'm more out in the world now. I'm more out speaking on stage. I'm out doing these kinds of pieces of training.

I'm more out doing master classes. I'm more out engaging with a bigger crowd. And that's sort of my evolution in working through that. And part of that is also like Kelly said, you don't need to monetize everything, but what we're trying to communicate here is that. You can potentially, especially in the world that we live in right now, you can monetize a lot of things if you wanted to.

Like, there is no shortage of creative ways you can turn the thing that you love into something that you would consistently do, and it's a part of your day-to-day life. You would do it anyway. And the bonuses that you're, you get to connect with people and serve other people in the process just like what we're doing here.

That's possibility that you can go towards. And also really thinking about I, I want to kind of, because a lot of times, and some of you might be listening, or if you're listening to this and you're in a place in your life or like, I have all this stuff going on in my life that I'm busy with. I feel okay about it and I'm making progress.

I feel like I'm creating success, but I don't feel connected to it. What the hell do I do there? Well, first of all, many of us will be in that space. First of all, step back, like Kelly says, give yourself some space and become aware of what matters to you. Sit in the pain of that.

And then the next step might be is to do like, well, what would you ideally want to create? And this is where your vision comes in because your vision might have changed. What you want to create might have changed, but you haven't explored it if you don't know how to explore it. You can reach out to me or Kelly, we can help you through that.

And we've actually created stuff in the background for you to do that. But unless you explore that you don't know how to get out of where you are, and maybe you don't want to get out of where you are, maybe you want to connect to it in a different way. You don't know any of that until you explore that process.

But what we're encouraging here is for you to explore what else is inside of you. Is there more that you want to do? Is there a different thing that you want to do? Is there something else that connects with your heart that you've kind of shoved to the side and hoped that someday it will come up? Actually, let me share just one thing before so I had a client, and I worked with him for a few months.

It was really cool. Like this guy is an entertainer. He will make you laugh. He's a comedian as well. And In the first session, he was sharing a lot of things. He was doing, he was in real estate, he was investing in everything. I'm like, that is not what he cares about.

Like, he does that stuff for money. I'm like, tell, tell me more. And I was just literally, I spent about 90 minutes just listening to him. I'm like, what? What do you care about? What brings passion into your life? What brings joy? What brings connection? What, what? What gets you up every day? And he started sharing little moments.

But, you know, it's like, what, what I love about is just being in front of people and making them laugh and entertaining them. I'm like, how much are, are you doing? He said, well, like, I'm kind of doing that with my podcast with real estate. I'm like, what would you ideally wanna do? It's like, well, I wanna be an influencer.

I wanna be in front of people. I want to entertain them and I want to educate them about this stuff. And as soon as he starts talking about it, there's a different side of him shows up. Oh, like, so lemme ask you this. So what's the plan? Cuz what I'm hearing is that you're building this business, that business. When do you feel like you're doing that, that matters to you?

He's like, well, I'm kind of doing it on the side. I'm like, do you want to do that at some level at a bigger level? Do you want to do that more full-time? Do you want to do that? He's like, yeah, I would love, every time I would say it, like, I would love that. I'm like, so what are you doing then?

What's your plan? You know, when I build all those businesses in about 10 years, I'm gonna do that. And I just looked at 'em. I'm like, you're not gonna do that. Like, can you tell me, was there a time you thought about this 10 years ago? It's like, yeah, I've been thinking about this since I was six years. 

Oh my goodness.

So every 10 years you tell yourself that you're gonna do this 10 years later, do you think that's gonna happen? He's like, no. He's like, I need to do this now. And actually, that's what got him to start the coaching process within. Cuz he knew, he knew that he was afraid and he was putting it off. 

Kelly: I love that.

So leap and the net will be there. Sometimes, and I feel like the gentleman you're even just speaking into, when you do activate and live through your passions, your other businesses are going to connect themselves by default because it calms down to your energy and your frequency and your vibration and fight.

So you even just, I watched your energy ship, you just got all hyped and you were feeling because 

I love that so much. 

So it's like that's what happens is like if you focus on your passion, I stopped facing money in 2018 when I. Had my rock bottom moment since we talked about rock bottom moments, and now I chase feelings and emotions and money.

My financial success is a byproduct of leaning into my passion because as I talk about this all the time but even like me becoming the team mom for my son's football team, it lit me up in such a different way that it activated something else in me. and guess what? My business benefits.

So it's like you following your passion is like following the leprechaun at the end of the rainbow, there's like your pot of gold is there. It's like activated, it's ready, it's blessings, it's abundance. And when I say abundance, I'm speaking beyond. Wealth. I'm talking about inner and outer wealth. I'm talking about feeling abundant in your relationships, abundant in your partnerships, in with your client experiences in the day-to-day, like waking up and living and living and not waiting, like living and not waiting to die almost is what it makes me think of when we're, when we ignite our passion with us, like you are going all out every day and it just feels, it hits different.

It hits differently when you're following your passion. Yeah. 

Faisal: It, really does. And like, bringing it back to day-to-day life, and I used to think about this a lot. I still do. And I used to think about, okay, how long do I spend at work? And so some of you might be thinking, well, I want to get off work and I want to create a business where I don't have to be there.

That, that's a great idea. But let's say you have all the time in the world, what are you doing with that time? Mm-hmm. . Okay. Well, I want to travel the world. Like, let's say you travel for a whole year, maybe two years. What are you gonna do after? People don't realize there are a lot of hours in the day. I actually flying through this cuz he had this idea.

He is like, I'm going to retire, and five years after I do my real estate investing path. And then I got him to walk through his life. I'm like, walk me through your ideal world, your, your vision of like what you're creating like, okay, so I'm gonna wake up at this time, have my morning routine, I'm gonna engage with my family and I'm gonna work for like two hours.

That's all I wanna work. And by the time he explained all that, he got to about one o'clock in the afternoon. Like what are you doing after that? He had no idea and he was, he, he started getting anxious about it. I'm like, so what are you gonna do? He's like I think I wanna keep working. that we both laugh because he is like, he completely shifted, changed his model.

He still obviously has created a system where he doesn't have to work, but he actually likes working, right? He likes where he loves interacting with people. The reason why I'm bringing this up is that there are a lot of hours in a day. And we understand this as human beings, but as soon as you lose a sense of purpose in what you're doing, actually think about people who retire.

Like we have this idea in the western world of retiring. Just track what happens to, especially men, what happens to their health and well-being after they retire. When they lose a sense of purpose, the majority of them, their health. Health goes down. Yeah. And the reason why I said men, cuz. A lot of their purposes are associated with work and career and everything, women at least have the other side of it, the children and everything.

They are focused on that plus that side. So it hits men much, much harder a lot of times. But when you look at that, you realize that, oh, what the hell does retirement mean? and, and I want to kind of take it back one more step is like when you actually look at human beings, how, like I grew up in communities.

When you look at the role of elders and communities, they never retired naturally from human beings. They actually created, they went, stepped into one of the most important roles, and became the teachers in the community, the wise people in the community that people went for guidance. Children went for guidance.

So many other people became the people who set guidelines and rules, based on their wisdom. But we've kind of left that off as we went through as a nuclear family model, but we don't realize that that's just something we are, have experimented with and it doesn't work very well, to be honest.

So then coming back to your day-to-day life, so if your idea is to let me retire when I'm 40 or 30 or whatever, and I'll do whatever I want. You will be shocked as to how much time there is and you won't know what to do. And plus, if your idea is that, oh, I'm just gonna do this thing every day for the next 10 years that I hate because I'm gonna make money.

Think about that time they're spending about 8, 10, 12 hours you're spending at work. What does that do to your mind, to your well-being when you're kind of grinding through the day and you hate it and you don't want to be there, but you're doing it for the sake of that 10-year payoff?

What does that do to you when you go back to your family when you go back to your weekend? It's no surprise that when people go back to the weekend, what do they want to do? They want to drink and hide. They don't want to connect. They don't know how to be present with their family because they don't like their life.

They've just spent five days doing something they hate, so they just want the space, to run away. 

Kelly: I'm just reaffirming to myself like listening to you talk. I'm just reaffirming, gosh, I'm so glad that I'm living out my passion. Cause that sounds miserable when you put it in that context.

When you put it that way, it sounds miserable. 

Faisal: It is. We don't like it, and this is one of the things I've learned with most people. One of the things that I do in my, like the first call I have, I want people to feel their pain. Because most of us run away from our pain. We don't feel it. We know that it's there, but we, it's a concept.

But once you come down to it, it's like, shit, what am I doing in my day-to-day Life and just looking at yourself in the mirror. This is what matters to me. Is this what I wanna do? And if you can say, say that I, I think it was Steve Jobs, like, you need to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and, ask yourself, is this what matters to me? 

Kelly: Yeah, I have an awesome visualization I take people through. It's actually like hip, it's more. Of visualization, but you're, it shows you you're going to the left or to the right, and then if you stay on this current trajectory, it takes you 12 months and then five years, and then 10 years, and it forces you the same thing to feel the pain of not change.

And then it takes you back up to the fork and then you know I'm talking and you're like, okay, the good news is it's 2023, and you're not there. And we take 'em down the other road. Feel if they would leverage and lean into exactly what we're talking about, some of their passions, and make the changes and make the shifts, then I want them to feel that difference in their body as well because I think this conversation quite to be pretty transparent.

A lot of people might even just skim right past it cause it doesn't even seem tangible. It doesn't even seem like a step or reach that they could take. And that's why I think a lot of times we just get so comfortable and, and the expectations and the day-to-day that we get, we normalize what that feels like, that we forget what it feels like to feel good.

and that's why it's powerful to what you just said, feel the pain or like I just do it. I do the same thing in a different way, but allow them to feel it because sometimes you have to feel it to know that it can feel different, but it has to be almost like, I think that's where support comes in.

Sometimes it's hard to recognize that you can't solve a problem from the same level of consciousness that created it, so it's hard to see what you need to see when you're in it.

Faisal: And then that was a huge realization for me as I went on this journey like it's been 15 years or so. It took me a while to kind of look into these things and try to formulate and make sense of them.

A lot of times I would get stuck and similar to it, I didn't know how to process my emotions, so I would emotionally get stuck, and I would try to solve it with concepts and I wouldn't work because my brain was stuck in a different place and yeah, I didn't know how to move through that.

And it was like back and forth until I had, fortunately, I had some mentors. And solely as I went toward mentorship and coaching. I realized that within six months, as I got focused in there, within six months, I made just as much progress as I did in the past 15 years. That was a huge, like, that's why coaching was huge for me.

Kelly: it does. It collapses time and walls. I always jokingly say, my mistakes are your mastery. Like, I've done so many mistakes, so come on, let's, let's discover this. Let's uncover it. Save yourself time, save yourself money. Save yourself the headache. Let's go. Do you know what I mean? 

Faisal: And, and when you and I love that because, and when you get to a certain age like I'm gonna be 40 this year. I might have gotten that date wrong, but plus or minus 39, 41,


Kelly: What do you think, like, to close this up, my personal opinion is, you have to release the shoulds or you're gonna should yourself to death and you have to get into the must and commit. Just like you can't go to the gym. I couldn't go to the gym and expect a six-pack in a week, probably even six months

So like we can't expect to like have this aha moment. Like we know our passion and boom, we're doing it, but it's with sets and reps and it's like taking consistent action. Take 10 minutes a day, do shadow work, walk yourself through some journaling, and props, and ask one of us what questions we could send you to pull up so you can begin to have the awareness to take the actions.

And then hopefully you have a friend, a partner, a coach, or a mentor who can help activate and be your backbone as you're going through the discovery process and the unbecoming because I think it can get a little messy at times too. 


Faisal: And the process is not, it's not supposed to be an easy process.

Like there is the stigma thing, the code that goes like, we never said that it was gonna be easy. It'll just help you. it's the process that the journey is not an easy journey. It's a journey to grow. And growth is not always easy. And we know this physically when we're working out. That's not an easy process, but is it worth it?

And what we're trying to get you to think about, How can you get started and whether it is worth it? And you have the tools and the guidance as you move forward. And so the starting point might be is to really take even 10, 15 minutes, step back from your life, from the busyness day to day and take some time to journal or think about or visualize it, like look at your life, like take a, take a survey of your life.

That's the first thing a scientist would do. If a scientist were to go into a new space. The first thing they would do is not try to change things. They would take a survey of the whole land and see what's available and what's there to be a scientist in your life and then become a philosopher. The next step is really to ask yourself, well, does this matter to me?

Am I basing my life based on some ex-random, arbitrary expectations? Or does it really matter to me? Does it matter to my soul, to my heart? And if the answer is yes, great, how can I go more towards that? If the answer is no, then well, what do I really want? 

And that's where your vision comes in. That's where you need to create and work on that slowly. And this is an ongoing process. This is, will help you figure out what your passion is, what matters to you, and how can you use that to connect more with your purpose as we shared last time. And that's a simple process.

You can follow along the way as you get stuck, reach out to us cuz you will get stuck at some points. It's not an easy process. We got stuck. The reason we know this and we work with people day in, and day out, we get stuck. That's not a negative thing. That's just a human. Yeah. And we can help you out with some questions, with some tools, with some training that will help you move forward.

Kelly: Yeah, Hey, I'm gonna give them, like Tony Robbins always does the rocking chair test, and I do a similar version of that. But if you are gonna journal, you're pulling out your paper, go ahead and take yourself to a 90-year-old version of yourself. See yourself sitting on the porch. Let's create the atmosphere, this beautiful setting out front, and then think like, think about it.

And plus, it's gonna give you a pure appreciation for your body and how it moves. Now, regardless of anything else that comes through. But think about like what, what are, if you're 90 now and you're looking back, what are the regrets? What are the things that you remembered? What do you wish you would've followed or done?

Or spoke up and said, like, take those things. And use that as a launchpad to self-discovery of your next step or things that you wanna start committing to doing differently. So you don't get on the rocking chair at 90 and look back and have regrets. You have the option to draw a line in the sand right here at this moment and commit to activating and finding your passion.

And when you do that, it's gonna change the whole trajectory of your life. Whether you monetize it or not, the people in your life benefit because it's a ripple effect and you become this beacon of light for others to find hope in. So it's a bigger picture. My personal opinion of the world is Collective healing by you activating that in you because activated people activate others.

So if you care about the bigger picture, find your passion because the people that you're gonna inspire along the way. It is gonna be like, this is where I'll start geeking out and get nerding out because it's like the ripple effect. You have no idea by you activating your passion, how many other people you're gonna inspire and activate along the way.

And then that's when life gets good. That's when it's juicy. 

Faisal: Yeah. Yeah. And actually, that reminded me, by the way, when I was thinking about the rocking chair I wasn't at, at 90, I'm on top of a mountain. I'm camping and I'm just doing this. Yes, I live the life that mattered to me. 

Kelly: at 90 I'm still on the dance floor. I'm dancing and having fun because my whole philosophy is having fun. 

Faisal: Great. And so what is that picture for you? Cuz it tells you a lot about what you wanna create. I really love that. So actually before we end this. I'll just share a couple of things. 

I met a group of six coaches that we have as part of our org organization where we're delivering coaching to this other organization, and we were just sharing about what's exciting about this project and everything you could see in every one of their eyes. They're actually not really like financial abundance is part of it, but what they're seeking is that growth.

and there are like their eyes light up when they think about working with each other to improve, master the process, and working with each other to serve others and, and move this project forward that will have a bigger ripple effect in the world. Yeah, like an effect to what Kelly said is that this stuff has a ripple effect in your life with your family, with your community.

It doesn't just stay with you because when you shift. Then everybody else around you shift. I, I love what you said. When you activate everybody else around, you activate. It doesn't just stay with you. And, and that's very powerful cuz a lot of us wanna make a difference in other people's life. We constantly, try to do that with our advice.

We try to do that with what we want to tell them. A bigger way to do that is to role model the way and yeah, this is an opportunity for you to do that. So we'll leave it at that and just make sure you like, and share this video and share your thoughts about what were some of your insights. What popped up for you?

What was the 90-year-old picture of your life on the rocking chair, on the dance floor, or on the top of the mountain? Wherever you see yourself be and 

Kelly: we're gonna dance, rock, and climb a mountain. 

Faisal: Yeah, those are not the only options, but those are the options that came up. And here, and let us know what, what would, what was the insight and what are you committing to do?

What is your commitment moving forward, is that that, oh, you're gonna take half an hour in the morning and kind of reflect back on this? Or today you're gonna do that journal about it or visualize it. What are you, what are you gonna do about this? And consistently share that insight with us so we can, we can help you move forward there.

And also our next session's gonna be on legacy. We talked about passion. We talked about purpose. What is the legacy that you are leaving behind it? It connects to both of these topics. And let us know how you look at your legacy. How do you want to look at your legacy? What do you want to leave behind as you, because you are gonna leave, and that's not an if, that's a when question.

So what are you leaving behind in terms of your values, in terms of things you're leaving behind, in terms of principles that you're leaving behind in terms of the people that you're leaving behind? What are you leaving? Yeah. 

Kelly: That's good. I love it. This has been so much fun. Yeah, come back, join us same time, in the same place.

Next Tuesday, one o'clock. We're gonna finish up on Legacy and we're gonna give you guys an exciting opportunity to receive more and activate some of this. So hopefully if this is stirring something in you and if you feel like a little burn, if you start to feel that little light beginning to brighten, then stay tuned and we'll make sure we have some ways that you guys can activate your passion and purpose on your own or with us as well, whichever feels better for you.

Faisal: Awesome. Have an incredible day and make sure you like and share this video. Bye.

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