Success in Real Estate Isn't Just About Finding Better Deals

Ask most multifamily investors what's holding them back, and you'll hear answers like:

• "I need more capital."

• "I need better deals."

• "The market is too competitive."

• "Interest rates are too high."

While these are real challenges, they're often not the biggest obstacle.

The investors who consistently build successful portfolios understand something many others overlook:

Technical knowledge gets you started. Strategic thinking, personal alignment, and high performance determine how far you go.

Many investors already know how to analyze a deal, raise capital, or speak with brokers. Yet they remain stuck because they lack a clear vision, structured execution, and the personal systems required to sustain long-term growth.

The Biggest Mistake Investors Make: Chasing Opportunities Instead of Building a Vision

When you're new to multifamily investing, the biggest challenge is often finding opportunities.

But something interesting happens as you gain experience.

Instead of too few opportunities, you suddenly have too many.

• New partnerships.

• Joint ventures.

• Different asset classes.

• Business ideas.

• Side projects.

Every opportunity looks attractive.

The danger isn't a lack of options.

It's losing sight of your long-term vision.

Without a clearly defined destination, it's easy to sacrifice your future for short-term wins.

Every Great Business Starts with a Vision

History offers a consistent pattern.

Great organizations don't begin with detailed plans.

They begin with a compelling vision.

Only after defining that vision do they build strategies, systems, and execution plans to make it reality.

The same principle applies to multifamily investing.

Before asking:

• Which market should I invest in?

• How many units should I acquire?

• How much capital should I raise?

Ask yourself:

What kind of life am I actually trying to build?

Because your portfolio should support your life—not replace it.

Reverse Engineer Your Future

One of the most powerful ideas from the transcript is this:

Don't build your future one deal at a time.

Build it backwards.

Start by defining your ideal life five to ten years from now.

Then reverse engineer everything required to get there.

That process includes:

• Defining your long-term vision.

• Creating a strategy.

• Breaking the strategy into yearly goals.

• Translating those goals into quarterly priorities.

• Scheduling daily actions on your calendar.

A vision without execution remains a dream.

Execution without vision leads to burnout.

Your Portfolio and Your Personal Life Must Work Together

Many entrepreneurs separate business from personal life.

In reality, they're deeply connected.

One of the biggest reasons investors struggle isn't because of the market.

It's because the people closest to them don't understand—or support—the direction they're pursuing.

Whether it's your spouse, business partner, or family, misalignment creates unnecessary tension.

When everyone understands and supports the same vision, decision-making becomes much easier.

Don't Build Wealth Without Purpose

Money is an incredible tool.

But without purpose, it becomes easy to chase growth for growth's sake.

The transcript emphasizes that wealth should serve something larger than accumulation.

Ask yourself:

• Why do I want financial freedom?

• What experiences am I trying to create?

• How will my success improve the lives of others?

Purpose creates direction.

Direction creates discipline.

Discipline creates sustainable success.

Entrepreneurship Requires More Than Technical Skills

Many multifamily education programs focus almost entirely on:

• Underwriting.

• Asset management.

• Financing.

• Raising capital.

• Deal analysis.

These are essential.

But they're only part of the equation.

Once investors understand the technical side, most challenges become personal rather than technical.

They struggle with:

• Clarity.

• Focus.

• Consistency.

• Energy.

• Decision-making.

• Implementation.

Knowledge isn't usually the problem.

Execution is.

Structure Creates Freedom

Many entrepreneurs believe freedom means having no schedule.

Ironically, the opposite is often true.

Freedom comes from having systems.

Without structure:

• Priorities constantly change.

• Opportunities become distractions.

• Important work gets delayed.

• Stress increases.

With structure:

• Daily actions align with long-term goals.

• Decisions become easier.

• Progress becomes measurable.

Success isn't built through random bursts of motivation.

It's built through consistent systems.

Stop Building Your Business Alone

Entrepreneurship can be lonely.

Many investors spend years trying to solve every challenge by themselves.

The result?

They overthink.

Lose confidence.

Create unnecessary fears.

Remain stuck.

The transcript highlights the importance of surrounding yourself with people who can identify your blind spots and challenge your assumptions.

That may include:

• Coaches.

• Mastermind groups.

• Mentors.

• Accountability partners.

• Experienced investors.

Sometimes the breakthrough isn't new information.

It's someone helping you see what you've been missing all along.

Experience Isn't Enough—Reflection Matters

Even experienced investors develop blind spots.

The difference between those who continue growing and those who plateau is their willingness to examine their thinking.

Ask yourself regularly:

• What assumptions am I making?

• What opportunities am I pursuing out of fear rather than strategy?

• Is my daily calendar aligned with my long-term vision?

• What distractions are pulling me away from what matters most?

Growth begins with awareness.

High Performance Is the Missing Piece

Many investors believe success comes from mastering real estate.

In reality, success often comes from mastering yourself.

That means improving:

• Your mindset.

• Your energy.

• Your relationships.

• Your communication.

• Your resilience.

• Your strategic thinking.

Real estate is simply the vehicle.

You are the driver.

Questions Every Multifamily Investor Should Ask

Before pursuing your next acquisition, pause and consider:

What kind of life do I want five to ten years from now?

Does my current business support that vision?

Am I building systems—or simply staying busy?

Who challenges my assumptions?

Am I investing only in properties, or am I investing in becoming a better leader?

The answers to these questions often determine the quality of both your portfolio and your life.

Final Thoughts

The most successful multifamily investors don't just acquire apartments.

They intentionally design the life those apartments are meant to support.

They understand that:

• Vision comes before strategy.

• Strategy comes before execution.

• Execution requires systems.

• Systems require discipline.

• And sustainable success requires continuous personal growth.

Technical knowledge may help you close your first deal.

But long-term success in multifamily investing comes from becoming the kind of person who can consistently build, lead, adapt, and execute.

Build your vision first. Then build the portfolio that supports it.

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So hey, tell me about you.

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Let's, uh, let's go through your background a little bit.

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And, you know, I, I know you're from a war-torn country.

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I don't think you specified exactly where from, but you've obviously been a US resident for the most of your life now, right?

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I'm actually a Canadian resident.

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Oh, you're a Canadian resident.

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Okay.

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Yes.

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So I, I do-- We're at this point, though, our plan is half the time we're in US, half the time we're in Canada.

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Most of my clients happen to be in the US, and my business, a lot of it is in US, so I get to travel a lot, and that's part of the decision of traveling, being more in States as well, because I'm starting to do a lot of, uh, in-person events as well, and speaking at events too, so that, that helps with the journeys.

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In terms of my background, I was born in Afghanistan- Oh

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which a lot of people know about at this point.

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Yep.

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It's been in the news often.

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Um, uh, I mean, we left there a while ago when I was very, uh, young, about three and a half years old, and I lived about a good portion of my life in Pakistan, neighboring country, different cultures, similar in some degree, some degree.

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But then when I was 17, we migrated to, to Canada.

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That's where a lot of the fun stuff happened for me.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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And, and fun being, 1, there was a huge culture shock when I came over to this side of the world.

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Being a teenager is a, a shock in itself, but, but coming to this side, I couldn't make sense of a lot of the things, and I didn't know what was going on.

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But at the time, just having the kind of mind that I had and the, the kind of environment I was in, I couldn't make sense of anything, and I didn't know how to seek for support.

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And what that led me to is a lot of, um, uh, the negative path that I went on around alcohol addiction, dr- drug addiction, depression for a number of years.

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4 or 5 years I was on that journey until there was a moment that, that hit.

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I described a lot of times where I was just at the rock bottom and where I was sitting in front of a subway station, uh, had thrown up on the floor.

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There was blood there.

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I knew I had been abusing my body.

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I wasn't really surprised by that.

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But that moment, I mean, at the time, I didn't know what was going on, but I, I did feel a lot in that moment.

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I felt emotional, physical, and even spiritual pain.

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But in the same t- at the same time, I actually felt a lot of peace for the first time, a lot of, a sense of connection, which I didn't know what that meant.

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But what it did do was it opened-- It got me to think to step back, and I did step back because I didn't have a lot of willpower at that time.

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The only thing I could muster was, "Let me get a job on the weekend," so I couldn't go out, and I couldn't associate with anybody.

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So I worked Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and it was like, uh

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And I would have to start in the middle of the night, so I couldn't go anywhere.

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And then I en- enrolled back in college.

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At the time, I was studying engineering.

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And but it opened me up to a different world.

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I had to put a pause on a lot of my beliefs and started to question, and that gave me the space to study a lot too.

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So I started studying anything from psychology to philosophy, spirituality, history, sciences related to human behavior and trying to understand what went wrong.

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I mean, I came from a good family.

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We had great values.

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We came from a religious family.

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We had principles.

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We have ideals.

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But all of them broke down from beginning to the end.

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And in the journey, I realized that there were a lot of things to work through.

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A lot of it was, I mean, we went through a very tough bit.

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Like, when you're going through this process, when you come from a survival world, and when your parents had to leave a country, go to the next one, and they had to find a way to survive, you don't realize how much they are in survival, and you hold on to that within, within families.

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It affects you.

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We weren't unique.

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Millions of people left in that sense, um, and everybody has a different effect on different people.

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And I can tell you, most people coming from that region, they, they were traumatized to another level.

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A lot like when people in military go, veterans go, and they come back, they're not the same.

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It has a very similar PTSD effect, not just on the people who left, but on the next generation and the next generation until that gets interrupted.

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So I realized I had to deal with a lot of trauma that was left that I couldn't make sense of.

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I had to process a lot of that.

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I had to make sense of what I needed to do.

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I had to let go of certain things.

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A lot of it was guilt, shame.

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A lot of it was ideas that never worked, uh, from, that we carried forward in this world.

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And I had to become open to new, a new path.

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I had to find better ways to establish relationship.

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I had to deal with a lot of demons internally.

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And that was a 10, 15-year journey, and then at some point, I met my mentor coach long after that, and then he took me through a process for about 6 months, and I felt like I, I, I grew as much in 6 months as I did in the last 15 years.

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And then my, the question I asked myself was, "Well, why wasn't that available to me at the time?"

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And I didn't even know there was help like that available or support like that available, so

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And that opened me up to a whole different journey, and that's where my entrepreneurship journey began, uh, along with my wife.

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And we set out to find a way to build a business that we didn't know how, how to build.

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That was another challenge on its own, but it opened up us up to a life of freedom, a life of purpose, and to serving others in a better way, and to helping them understand who they are deep down.

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Helping them deal with things that they don't even know exist that are impacting their life in negative ways.

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And so that's what I do day-to-day.

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I'm a high performance coach, and I'm also a business coach at this point too.

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Uh, I have a couple communities for entrepreneurs, for coaches.

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I do run in-person events too.

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Um, I have a couple online communities, and I work with people one-on-one in small group settings, uh, to help them make sense of what they're creating long term, what is the legacy they're leaving behind for their family, for those around them.

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It's not alway- always financial.

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A lot of times it's around their values, how they wanna show up, what kind of model they wanna leave

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And I essentially work with leaders to help them create better families, better organizations, and better communities.

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Yeah, I saw that.

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You know, going back to your bout with depression and drugs and alcohol and all that, that seems to be something that I see.

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It's just very, very prevalent in our countries, in the US and in Canada, and I, I think there's many, many reasons for that.

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But I never realized that in the US and Canada, and I, I think probably some other, um, Western countries probably deal with it as well.

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But I never realized all that until I started traveling and going to countries where things are more relaxed and maybe even less is expected of you as a citizen than it is in our countries.

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Um, I mean, I think there's more than, more than just that, that, that goes into it.

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But how are you dealing with that?

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I mean, I know the-- as an entrepreneur myself- You know, I, we, we deal with that every day, right?

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I mean, it's, um, you know, a, a lot of people want to get into entrepreneurship because they think, "Well, I get to set my own schedule and do what I want."

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Um, and if you do what you want and set your own sch- I mean, yeah, of course you can set your own schedule, but man, your phone's ringing on Christmas Day, on Christmas Eve, every single holiday if you own your own business.

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And I think that takes a toll on people.

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And then I think you said it, the failures along the way that are inevitable for an entrepreneur.

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How are you dealing with helping people overcome all that?

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And I, I primarily work with entrepreneurs, uh, too, so I'm fairly familiar on, supporting, uh, entrepreneurs, but also my own journey in the past decade as well.

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I have a bit of a different philosophy around this, and I understand that there are pressures in entrepreneurship, and there are times where you need to work.

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You need to because there are things that don't work.

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There are, there are ups and downs in the economy.

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You need to change strategy.

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You need to pivot.

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And sometimes some offers work, sometimes they don't work.

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Lots of things.

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There are problems in partnerships and your systems.

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Lots of things can show up at any time, and you're responsible if you're running this whole thing.

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So it requires a certain amount of resilience to be able to even be entrepreneurship.

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And to be honest, I don't think it's for everybody.

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I don't think everybody will be happy as an entrepreneur either, and I don't have this perspective that everybody should be an entrepreneur to create a life of freedom.

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There are people who have really good jobs, and they've been able to, especially nowadays, create a really good path forward with some side hustle and their major thing that they're doing, and they're really with good companies where they are able to do that.

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But the move to entrepreneurship is, is a whole other process.

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So for me personally, the way I look at it, I'll bring up, uh, Warren Buffett here, and I really learned this perspective, um, uh, from, from how he approached it.

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Uh, somebody asked him-- He had a third partner outside of Charlie Munger early on, and somebody asked him what happened to him, and he looked at him as being just as brilliant as Charlie Munger and himself.

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And he's like, "He was in too much of a hurry to make money."

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He ended up buying his shares, and nobody knows about him.

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A-actually, I don't even remember his name.

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Um, but people know about Warren Buffett and Charlie Munger.

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They stayed long-term.

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Their, their strategy was always long-term.

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And at least every entrepreneur that I aspire to, that, that inspires me, they have thought through this long term.

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Not just long term in terms of business, but they look at the whole aspect of, "What am I really looking for?

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What's meaningful to me?"

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Because after a while, it's-- In the beginning, it's exciting to be an entrepreneur.

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You jump in, you do lots of, you're learning a lot and everything, but, and you're always learning as an entrepreneur.

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But after a while, there are a lot of repetitive things- Yep

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that you do.

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And that's when people get sidetracked.

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They go towards the next opportunity.

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They lose focus, and then they add the next one.

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They add the next one.

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Pretty soon, on average, anybody that comes to me, they're running like 4 or 5 businesses.

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And when the first question I'm asking is like, "Why are you running all these businesses?"

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They're like, "Well, I need multiple streams of income."

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Like, "Where did you learn that from?"

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And again, people learn surface things, and then they implement it.

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I believe in dedication, focus, long-term thinking, and that's how I thought of it in terms of our lifestyle as well, is that it's gonna take a while to build up.

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It took me about two and a half years to fully develop, um, my business.

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And again, even though I did jump in fully in the sense that I left my engineering career, I started driving Uber in the beginning because I needed the mental bandwidth for this.

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But I dedicated my time to learning this, and I learned pretty fast I need to be around other entrepreneurs.

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I need to actually dedicate to build a consistency, a schedule.

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My first order of business is, "I'm free.

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I'll do whatever I want."

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That never worked.

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So I had to build some kind of structure in my life because most of my life I was given structure.

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I never built it myself, and most entrepreneurs struggle with that.

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So, um, when I started going on that path, I realized, "You know what?

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What are the things that are important to me?

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Well, um, why did I go into entrepreneurship?"

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Well, first I wanted a, a sense of freedom, and freedom to me was 2 things.

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One was external freedom, time freedom, location freedom, wanted to do the things that I wanted to do.

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But the other one for me, which a lot of people don't think about, was I was also looking for internal freedom, which to me was a sense of peace, a sense of connection, a sense of meaning in my day-to-day life, fulfillment.

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If I didn't have that, what the hell is the point of doing something harder than what I was doing?

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So a-and some of those came from, many of those things came from my family.

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They came from my children, my wife.

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So I wasn't willing to sacrifice that for the sake of the business, and so I took it a little bit slower initially.

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Now what most people do is they go really hard in the beginning, and they're taught like that by a lot of entrepreneurs who don't have their lifestyle or their vision or their sense of purpose, be like, "No, work 100 hours a week."

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You can, but in the meantime, what is truly important to you?

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What might be import-important for another entrepreneur who's building a $100 million empire billion dollar empire is not important to you.

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And most people don't know what that is because they haven't done the deeper work.

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So for me, I went slow in the beginning, but then I understood compound effect.

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Eventually, it took over.

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I had built enough systems where I, I had my time freedom, but I can also run my business.

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So I always look at it as a long-term process, and I slowly built the pieces in my personal life to where I can have location freedom.

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I don't have to wait for retirement to be able to go travel and do all sorts of things that I, I wanted to do.

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So I-- as a starting point, that's how I look at it.

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And, and the day-to-day stressors, they're a part of

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You, you develop resilience as you do this, as you are open to it, and it's a part of it.

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But that doesn't mean you need to be miserable about it.

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I have a phrase, one of my clients, he sends me a message once in a while.

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He's been my client for 4 years, and he has a couple of businesses, and he's like, he'll just send me a phrase, something like, "It's only business."

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And he'll say, "I hate you," because it's stuck in his head.

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You know, you know what stuck out with, with everything that you just said for me is the fact that you did Uber because you knew you could just do it whenever you needed to, to survive.

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So you-- and I th- you know, so you could have the time to build your business on the side.

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I've done similar things in the past where I've taken, and even now I do a little bit of consulting work on the side where I try, I try to get little side gigs to where they just take up a couple hours a day.

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And I know that I could go get a heck of a lot more money, right?

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Work more, make more, get a gig that's probably more suited for my, uh, talent.

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But I'd rather have the lesser thing that is easier to do and takes up less time so that I can have my time and my freedom back to build what I really want to build.

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And I think that's, to your, to your point, most people don't understand that, right?

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They're going, I guess going back to what Buffett said, they're just trying to get the money now.

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And when you study most of these entrepreneurs, like in the book "Think and Grow Rich" and several others, all of the guys that really did big things focused on one thing for the most part, and they went all in on one thing, and it took them forever.

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It took them their lifetime, basically, right?

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And then, so I think having your hands in 10 different things, and I'm, I am the example of that.

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I've, I've had the same ideas.

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I'm like, "Well, I need 7 different income streams."

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And, you know, I think it's a, it's a mistake.

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I think if you have that multiple income streams, 6 or 7 like some people say that you need, I think you're spreading yourself too thin.

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You're not gonna be good at any of them.

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And entrepreneurship timing is very important, and a lot of people don't understand timing.

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And so when they hear a statistic like that, every, uh, most multimillionaires, they have at least 7 streams of income.

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What they don't understand is that when they started out, that's not what they had.

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They had one focus area.

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They developed that for a long time.

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Every coach, every mentor that has helped me who's built successful businesses, they are focused.

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Not only that, we're learning more and more as, um, there's a channel that interviews billionaires, and when you look at the deeper, like multi-billionaires, they have one focus.

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Now, here's what people see.

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When they have enough money, Peter Thiel, Elon Musk's partner, in his book, "Zero to One," talks about it.

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He's like, he's like, "When rich people don't know what to do with their money, they say, 'I am diversifying my income.'" So they have so much, so many resources, they don't know what to do.

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What do they do?

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They are still focused on their main thing, except what their resources are overflowing, so they're going into different assets and different investments, and somebody else is managing it for the most part, if they're a more, more dedicated entrepreneur on

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And, and again, most people look at the surface of what other people do, and they just copy it.

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So they will watch somebody who works 100 hours, like what is their lifestyle like?

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What are they looking for?

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What they're looking for is probably much different than what you're looking for.

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And, and in terms of, uh, and most people don't know how to think about even, um, uh, income and what ef- it affects lifestyle.

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So I'll, I'll ask every-- Most of my clients are investors, multifamily investors/entrepreneurs, so they will come to me.

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A lot of times I'll ask them, "So what's, what does your ideal life look like?"

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I'm like, "Okay, what would be the price tag for a life like that in your

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"I think 3 1000000, 10 1000000," something like

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They'll, they'll throw out a number like that.

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Okay, let's go through it, and we'll, we'll put down every aspect of it, and we'll put a price on it.

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We'll do a very educated guess.

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And we usually end up in around not more than 50,000 to 200,000.

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They don't know.

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They just guessed it, and they put in this pressure to create that.

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They don't have a purpose around it.

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They don't know what to do with it, but they think that that's what it takes.

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So one of 2 things happens.

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"Holy shit, I don't have to make that much."

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second, now they start to think that there's, there needs to be purpose behind wealth too.

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So no problem with creating 100 1000000, 200 1000000, a billion, but have a purpose because this is where the corruption sets in.

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When you don't have a sense of purpose with something that you're gaining Then that can lead you towards all sorts of weird places because, well, at least in the past decade that I've been in business, in the beginning, I used to think that there wasn't enough op- opportunities, and I was always trying to find leads and customers and all that stuff.

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After about 5, 6 years, I realized there were too many opportunities.

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Mm-hmm.

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And it was so easy to get sidetracked by this opportunity, that opportunity.

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This person wants to collaborate with you, that person wants to partner with you, and it's-- looks so good.

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Like, and then you've gained some skill sets as well.

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You're like, "Okay, I can make this happen."

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But the problem is you're gonna spread yourself thin.

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You're gonna go for a short-term opportunity at the cost of the long, long-term vision.

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And, and one that's very tempting, uh, and it ba- takes us back to those fairytale stories, uh, where like, let's take Aladdin and, uh, he goes to the cave.

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The-- what is the-- the actual thing that he's looking for is whatever his vision is, but then there are other temptations.

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Like these, these kind of stories or whatever the religious stories that we- we've heard, like they have meaning and most people forget it.

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It's like r- history repeats itself not just in a bigger themes, but in people's day-to-day lives.

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People fall for these things and then don't know what they're falling for.

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Again, so my take is that do the deeper work.

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Understand what your life is gonna be about.

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Life is really short.

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Paradoxically, it's also very long, but it, it goes-- can go by very fast.

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So what is your life gonna be about?

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What are the things that are truly important to you?

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Because what might be important to you versus somebody else are completely different things.

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Um, and then once you figure that out, then it becomes a little bit easier to stay on track and stay focused on the things that matter, and that's not always a lot of money.

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Sometimes it, it-- There are certain amount of resources everybody needs to, to, to have a certain amount of freedom.

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But you have to decide what that is.

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What's the lifestyle?

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What are the important things, uh, elements?

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What is it on the relationship side?

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What is it on the bigger meaning and purpose or faith side?

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If we haven't done that work, it's very hard to gauge what opportunities you jump in and what partnerships you go into.

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I, I just talked to a business owner today that, that I'm, I'm gonna be working with, and he is already in a partnership.

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He picked up the wrong partner 7 years ago.

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Now, he made a lot of money, but he's miserable.

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Because he never did the due diligence.

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He never figured out what his life was gonna be about.

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Now he feels stuck, and he's like, "If I leave, it's gonna break down a bunch of stuff, and that's a harder decision.

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If I stay, I'm just gonna be more and more miserable."

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And, and miserable is not just, "Okay, I'm just unhappy," but it's like he, he can't focus.

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He can't do the things that he used to.

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He doesn't have the energy anymore.

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He doesn't even wanna, wanna talk about the future.

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He doesn't wanna be involved in other things with this partner.

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He's like, "No, I jumped into an opportunity."

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They jump into an opportunity without knowing what their real passion or their real vision is.

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I, you know, is it just what I wanna do?

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I mean, I don't know.

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I don't know how you come up with w- why am I on this earth, right?

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I mean, a, a lot of people battle that question, including myself.

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You know, we, we go forth with something like this podcast I've been wanting to do for 10 years, and- Mm-hmm

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I've been wanting to do it.

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I enjoy it.

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I think I'm really natural at having the conversations and, and, uh, getting great information out of people.

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But at the same time, you-- I, I still kind of battle.

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Well, you know, am I gonna do this for 2, 3 years and then, you know, realize that it wasn't a passion or wasn't for me?

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I mean, I, I just don't-- Right now, I'm passionate about it.

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I really enjoy it.

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I don't know.

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I mean, is, is this what my life passion is?

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I don't know.

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So how do you come up with that?

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Yeah, um, and, and I'll share what happened.

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So, uh, in the early stages, the, uh, when we-- So early on, about a decade ago, my wife and I, we both realized we work- we had jobs, and we were just starting our life together.

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We had just gotten married, and, uh, I found myself becoming more and more miserable.

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And not because the-- Like I was fairly successful in out- what I was doing.

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I was getting promotions multiple times and in, just in the first year.

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I found myself that, you know what?

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you know, uh, even if I get paid a lot more, which I was working towards, I got the promotions, then I don't, I don't know if I want this.

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But I didn't actually know what I wanted.

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And, and that took a difficult decision.

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And, and my wife watched that.

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I still remember we used to-- I used to come home on Friday.

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We had, especially summers, like, let's-- we would go camping.

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And the reason why I would go camping, uh, would, would be that, that would be the only space I would have.

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Like, I remember we would both go there and, and, uh, do a bunch of stuff, go for walks, hikes, and everything, then I'd sit in front of the fire.

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At the time, we just had a tent.

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She would go to sleep.

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I would sit until, like, 4:00 in the morning just staring at the fire.

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And later on, my wife told me she, she hated those trips because it was very uncomfortable, but she knew she had to do it because I was in a bad state too.

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But then what happened was I had to make a decision, and, and, and the decision was this.

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I was like, "You know, I need to figure out what that thing is."

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Um, and I agree that we can't figure out all pieces of it initially, but here's what happened.

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So we took a-- I mean, again, I'm not suggesting for anybody to do this, but this is what happened with us.

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Uh, we took a 3week, uh, vacation.

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We were in debt at the time.

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Uh, we shouldn't have taken a vacation, but I also looked at it as a business investment 'cause I, I wanted to figure out.

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So I had been following Brendon Burchard at the time, and I saw that, uh, he was teaching, uh, something about, um, uh, following your passion and doing teaching or training or coaching with something that you're passionate about, and you can make it a, a, a part of, uh, your business.

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And I'd been following him for a while, and I'm like, "What's there to lose?

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I'm miserable to begin with.

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Like, what am-- Like, I'm gonna lose a little bit more money.

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Okay, great.

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Uh, and maybe I'll learn something along the way."

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So, um, we took this 3week vacation, went to California.

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We took a cruise down to Mexico, and we went to a couple conferences at the time.

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And, um, so I went to this conference.

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It was, um, it was about 700 people from 47 different countries.

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It was a business conference around how can you turn what you know into a revenue stream and what you care about.

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And that's when I got exposed to a whole different world.

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And I remember being around a group of people during a group work, and they were sharing some things about the things that they wanted to.

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And I-- 2 things stood out.

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1, that these people were actually passionate about something that matters to them, and I, I didn't rarely heard that in, in my own environment.

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And they also were working towards freedom.

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They were also working towards intentional things to serve and support and do all sorts of things.

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And my first response was, were, "Where the hell have you guys been all my life, right?"

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And this was the, the beginning of our journey to entrepreneurship journey and our path forward, my wife and I.

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Uh, af- within that conference, in the next 2 weeks, we went for walks.

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We talked about what are we creating, what matters to us.

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We didn't even have kids at the time, but, like, this is the kind of family we want.

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This is the kind of path we want.

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What are the, the possible obstacles?

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It was a vision d- beginning to develop in the process.

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And, and I-- that was the foundation.

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It was a joint vision that we created together.

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We came back and got to work.

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And we didn't know the exact path forward.

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We had some idea, some map of it, but that vision carried me forward.

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I knew, and, and I was seeking this life.

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It's very close to what we wanted to create at the time.

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In fact, it's much better than what we wanted.

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There were things that we weren't experienced enough to even know, so we had to experiment with a few things.

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But we had to actually-- One, I had to think about this stuff and, and, and take the time to step back from my life and go through it, and second, I had to align my vision with my wife.

358
00:23:56,240 --> 00:23:58,580
If that wasn't there, then that would create a problem too.

359
00:23:58,580 --> 00:24:06,540
And I, I run into a lot of my clients who have, uh, an idea for a different life, but then they cannot communicate that with their spouse, and then there's tension.

360
00:24:06,540 --> 00:24:08,976
And that tension, people don't realize how much it affects you.

361
00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:13,264
That lack of support from the person closest to you will hold you back in ways that you don't know.

362
00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:18,079
But that-- And, and again, I'm not trying to portray this as an easy path.

363
00:24:18,079 --> 00:24:21,140
That was not an easy path 'cause we had to come back and do the work.

364
00:24:21,140 --> 00:24:22,720
It took about two and a half hours.

365
00:24:22,720 --> 00:24:23,420
Half hours.

366
00:24:23,420 --> 00:24:24,340
Two and a half years.

367
00:24:24,340 --> 00:24:28,048
Two and a half years for us to put the foundations of it, and then we started going on that

368
00:24:28,720 --> 00:24:35,824
Along the way, we've made adjustments, but the vision has been very close to what we thought on that, uh, point, and we have kept reviving that.

369
00:24:36,360 --> 00:24:44,280
So it took you two and a half years to, to figure out what that vision was, and then you kind of reversed- No, no, it took us a few we- a couple of weeks to figure out what the vision was.

370
00:24:44,280 --> 00:24:47,740
It took, took us two and a half years to implement the foundations- Oh

371
00:24:47,740 --> 00:24:50,000
to create the foundations to be able to build that.

372
00:24:53,700 --> 00:25:03,700
So that's the work that most people don't do, and that requi- sometimes that work requires, uh, s-some know-how, a process, and that's one of the things I take my clients through.

373
00:25:03,700 --> 00:25:12,920
Every entrepreneur that comes into my program, I'll take them through, uh, at least a five, um, 5day program in the beginning, uh, end of the year and one in the middle of the year.

374
00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:18,040
So what that looks like, they will start with their vision, their long-term 5 to 10-year vision of what they're creating.

375
00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:21,040
Then we, uh, break that vision down into a strategy.

376
00:25:21,040 --> 00:25:22,720
I, I come from an engineering background.

377
00:25:22,720 --> 00:25:29,780
I, I don't believe that just because you have this vision and you're attracting things energetically, however people put it, it's just gonna randomly happen.

378
00:25:29,780 --> 00:25:30,900
Yes, that inspires you.

379
00:25:30,900 --> 00:25:32,950
That gets you to be motivated towards it.

380
00:25:32,950 --> 00:25:35,960
But you need to sort of build a structure, a system to go towards it.

381
00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:39,580
So I help them build a, five to 10-year strategy for that.

382
00:25:39,580 --> 00:25:41,030
And then we take that strategy.

383
00:25:41,030 --> 00:25:45,050
It has to go down to your calendar day to day, week to day, and it's a process for that.

384
00:25:45,050 --> 00:25:51,700
And then I take them through a process how you're gonna communicate that to the people closest to you and how you're gonna get supporters on that path.

385
00:25:51,700 --> 00:25:53,090
That's an influence process.

386
00:25:53,090 --> 00:26:10,680
And then the rest of the year, we work on refining their, um, their process and, and dealing with the things that hold them back, helping them refine their process, helping them build better data in their day-to-day life, whether they manage their time, whether they need to manage their finances, their relationships, everything they need to keep an eye on, the most important things.

387
00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:12,158
Not everything, the most important things.

388
00:26:13,068 --> 00:26:17,228
And within that process, and usually I get my clients s-sign up at least a one-year commitment.

389
00:26:17,228 --> 00:26:20,398
Within that year, they're different people because what, what happens?

390
00:26:20,398 --> 00:26:22,978
They become much more long-term thinkers.

391
00:26:22,978 --> 00:26:24,508
They become much more strategic.

392
00:26:24,508 --> 00:26:26,788
They become much more intentional in their day-to-day life.

393
00:26:26,788 --> 00:26:32,068
They become m- very aware of their own energy and the stressors they bring into their home and outside.

394
00:26:32,068 --> 00:26:36,648
They become aware of the skillsets they need to build because when I started out, I barely had any skillsets.

395
00:26:36,648 --> 00:26:37,948
I had to develop them.

396
00:26:37,948 --> 00:26:41,338
They had to b- develop-- They have to develop beliefs that support them to move forward.

397
00:26:41,338 --> 00:26:42,672
They have to build a community around

398
00:26:43,458 --> 00:26:50,142
All that stuff takes a little bit of work to do, and most people kind of learn along the way, and they make a lot of mistakes.

399
00:26:50,808 --> 00:26:54,978
And mistakes are normal, but the problem is that people make mistakes that they don't have to.

400
00:26:54,978 --> 00:26:58,668
They can learn, uh, some, some they can learn from other people's mistakes.

401
00:26:58,668 --> 00:27:10,008
And because they're not part of a community, they haven't done the deeper work, they, they haven't been challenged with their assumptions and beliefs and path forward, so they just kind of go along and try to copy the next person, and where does it take them?

402
00:27:10,008 --> 00:27:14,622
Uh, they-- Even if they're successful on their path, 10 years later, they're like, "Why the hell did I do this?"

403
00:27:15,728 --> 00:27:17,778
5 years later, when-- and they end up with a regret.

404
00:27:17,778 --> 00:27:21,088
Again, I'm not saying this will take you towards a perfect path.

405
00:27:21,088 --> 00:27:22,308
I have my challenges.

406
00:27:22,308 --> 00:27:23,768
I have my struggles.

407
00:27:23,768 --> 00:27:28,988
What I'm saying is this mitigates much of the problems if you do the deeper work ahead.

408
00:27:28,988 --> 00:27:30,408
Now, how do you know this works?

409
00:27:30,408 --> 00:27:41,328
Well, if you study history, if you study every empire, if you study every major corporation, if you study, uh, every kind of major government system, you will find that initially they started out with a vision.

410
00:27:41,928 --> 00:27:44,208
They didn't start with some kind of goal-setting system.

411
00:27:44,208 --> 00:27:45,208
They started with a vision.

412
00:27:45,208 --> 00:27:48,108
Th-think about the founders of, of US.

413
00:27:48,108 --> 00:27:54,368
They started with a vision of a better world, a different va-value system, some principles, and then they built a strategy around that.

414
00:27:54,368 --> 00:28:01,888
And then they, they kind of passed that on as a l-legacy to the new, uh, founders of the, the country, and then they move forward.

415
00:28:01,888 --> 00:28:05,552
Every community, every government, every empire, every organization does that.

416
00:28:06,068 --> 00:28:11,668
But when people start, individuals, they suck at because they think that if they just wing it, they'll get there.

417
00:28:11,668 --> 00:28:14,142
And they will, but it'll take them 10, 20 years longer.

418
00:28:15,906 --> 00:28:15,968
Mm-hmm.

419
00:28:15,968 --> 00:28:18,308
And they will sacrifice a bunch of stuff along the way.

420
00:28:18,308 --> 00:28:22,334
So it's just this big system and process of reverse engineering, essentially.

421
00:28:23,388 --> 00:28:24,468
Yeah, it i-it is.

422
00:28:24,468 --> 00:28:32,388
But again, it took me-- One, I was trained to think like that, and, and I had a lot of stuff, so I had-- But I had to build pieces of it myself.

423
00:28:32,388 --> 00:28:35,188
So the person who trained me, they didn't have this whole strategic process.

424
00:28:35,188 --> 00:28:36,698
They had an initial vision they went through.

425
00:28:36,698 --> 00:28:38,568
I'm like, "Holy shit, where do I find that?"

426
00:28:38,568 --> 00:28:41,748
I went-- For example, I looked for him, like, 'cause I was inspired by Brendon Burchard.

427
00:28:41,748 --> 00:28:43,108
He did one video.

428
00:28:43,108 --> 00:28:44,268
I had all of his programs.

429
00:28:44,268 --> 00:28:46,328
He did 01 video, and it had a battle board.

430
00:28:46,328 --> 00:28:49,278
He's like, "What I do is I have a battle board for the next ten years."

431
00:28:50,048 --> 00:28:52,628
Now I'm like, "Well, I want to build a business like his."

432
00:28:52,628 --> 00:28:58,568
Like, he didn't care to build a two hundred million dollar business that he had at the time, but I wanted to build a system and a life like that.

433
00:28:58,568 --> 00:28:59,868
So I'm like, "Okay, that might be important.

434
00:28:59,868 --> 00:29:01,708
So let me look at, like, what else he has."

435
00:29:01,708 --> 00:29:02,908
He never built it.

436
00:29:02,908 --> 00:29:04,308
He had it only for himself.

437
00:29:04,308 --> 00:29:06,928
I'm like, "Okay, let me reverse engineer that process."

438
00:29:06,928 --> 00:29:17,748
So I started building and testing it out, and then I started get- taking my clients through it, and at this point, hundreds of clients have gone through the process, and they've kind of helped me develop it further as I've experimented with it.

439
00:29:17,748 --> 00:29:20,828
And then all of a sudden, what they see is it completely changes their life.

440
00:29:20,828 --> 00:29:25,968
And again, I'm not saying I'm the only one who built this, but you need some kind of system and process to move forward.

441
00:29:25,968 --> 00:29:30,528
If you don't have it, you're gonna struggle long term and short term.

442
00:29:30,528 --> 00:29:44,208
And, and again, struggle is not a problem, but you're gonna unnecessarily struggle, especially if you're on-- Entrepreneurship is already hard, but most people make it a hundred times harder with extra stressors, lack of structure, lack of thinking, lack of strategy.

443
00:29:44,208 --> 00:29:46,788
And what ends up happening, they'll end up in a point where it's like, what happened?

444
00:29:46,788 --> 00:29:48,148
And they don't even know what happened.

445
00:29:48,148 --> 00:29:51,390
And a lot of it is because they have so many blind spots, they don't even see it.

446
00:29:52,108 --> 00:29:54,488
And the other side of it is I'm always around other people.

447
00:29:54,488 --> 00:29:57,408
Like, I'm always around other business owners and masterminds.

448
00:29:57,408 --> 00:29:59,168
I have my coaches, mentors.

449
00:29:59,168 --> 00:30:00,058
I have a community.

450
00:30:00,058 --> 00:30:02,528
I get-- People are giving me constant feedback.

451
00:30:02,528 --> 00:30:06,868
I'm open to that feedback from my own, uh, life partner, some of my friends that I trust.

452
00:30:06,868 --> 00:30:08,368
I don't operate in a vacuum.

453
00:30:08,368 --> 00:30:11,628
A lot of people operate very alone, and I did that for the first year.

454
00:30:11,628 --> 00:30:12,328
It didn't work.

455
00:30:12,328 --> 00:30:15,148
We get in our head, and then we lose confidence.

456
00:30:15,148 --> 00:30:16,408
We make up a bunch of crap.

457
00:30:16,408 --> 00:30:21,048
Our mind takes us towards all sorts of fears that are not real, and then you break down something.

458
00:30:21,048 --> 00:30:27,780
But if you are open to a community that nurtures you, supports you to move forward, it completely changes, uh, your process.

459
00:30:27,780 --> 00:30:41,120
So having at least one person that can see your blind spots and challenges you and directs you, and that could be a coach, an official coach, which I am, but that could also be a trusted person that you mentor, that you know.

460
00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:47,280
Find somebody that, that challenges your assumptions, and most people are operating on assumptions that don't work.

461
00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:49,620
Find somebody that can see things that you're not able to see.

462
00:30:49,620 --> 00:30:52,720
Now, think about it, and most of us are in problems, even for me.

463
00:30:52,720 --> 00:31:00,440
When I'm in a problem, it's hard for me to see the, the solution because I'm within the forest, but somebody who looks at it from 10,000 feet above, it's very different, right?

464
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:00,520
Yeah.

465
00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:02,000
And they've gone on that journey already.

466
00:31:03,820 --> 00:31:04,019
Yeah.

467
00:31:04,019 --> 00:31:08,340
It's easier to see from the outside when you're not emotionally tied to it, I think.

468
00:31:08,340 --> 00:31:11,326
You have a multifamily, uh, mastermind too, right?

469
00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:14,340
So I have 2 communities.

470
00:31:14,340 --> 00:31:21,710
Uh, I have, uh, a community for, uh, multifamily investors/entrepreneurs, but n- here's the difference.

471
00:31:21,710 --> 00:31:33,500
So most mentorship programs are focused on multifamily mentoring, so it's the technical pieces of how to invest in multifamily, uh, real estate in US, and they have about 95% of their program is that.

472
00:31:33,500 --> 00:31:36,080
I, I work, worked with many of these prog- programs.

473
00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:39,340
I brought the high performance coaching as part of their program.

474
00:31:39,340 --> 00:31:40,160
I implemented it.

475
00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:49,730
I worked with their clients, and after a while I realized m- once, once these investors figure out the technical pieces, most of their challenge is actually, uh, the things that I described.

476
00:31:49,730 --> 00:31:50,820
They don't have a vision.

477
00:31:50,820 --> 00:31:52,340
They're not clear on, uh, their strategy.

478
00:31:52,340 --> 00:31:55,380
They, they get stuck in the day-to-day, and then they don't move forward.

479
00:31:55,380 --> 00:31:59,376
They have all the knowledge needed to move forward, but they, they have the information, but they don't know how to implement

480
00:32:00,420 --> 00:32:03,160
Even though they have a community, they will-- a lot of people will get stuck in it.

481
00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:12,160
The only people who seem to move forward have, who have prior experience in building other businesses, and they have, uh, other resources and knowledge that they don't have, and the majority of them don't have it.

482
00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:15,220
So when I built my community, I thought of it from that point of view.

483
00:32:15,220 --> 00:32:16,960
So my community is reverse of that.

484
00:32:16,960 --> 00:32:21,620
So about 10% of it is some mentoring, and I don't run that because I'm not an expert in that area.

485
00:32:21,620 --> 00:32:22,640
I've hired another coach.

486
00:32:22,640 --> 00:32:24,840
I've collaborated with them to run that.

487
00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:37,660
90% of it is on performance, growth, developing all aspects of your life and, uh, being more effective, dealing with your energy, uh, making sure your relationships are aligned, your vision is clear, your strategy is clear.

488
00:32:37,660 --> 00:32:39,460
I work with them on that side to help move forward.

489
00:32:39,460 --> 00:32:48,800
A lot of my clients, they actually are part of other mentoring programs, but when they get stuck, they will come to me, and then they will move ahead after 3 years of being stuck within like 3 months or 6 months.

490
00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:49,000
Why?

491
00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:50,109
Because the process works.

492
00:32:50,109 --> 00:32:54,940
And then the other community I have is for coaches who are also wanting to be entrepreneurs.

493
00:32:54,940 --> 00:33:03,760
I've been in this industry for a while, so I-- in- initially we ran it as a volunteer organization for the p- first 4 years, um, because a lot of coaches were getting value from it.

494
00:33:03,760 --> 00:33:08,680
Eventually it became more complex, and then the members voted that we make it a paid membership.

495
00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:13,320
So we turned that into a business model, which is essentially the same business with 2 different offers.

496
00:33:13,320 --> 00:33:13,430
Mm-hmm.

497
00:33:13,430 --> 00:33:14,400
2 different communities.

498
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:17,900
For me, I don't look at them as separate business even though legally they are.

499
00:33:17,900 --> 00:33:19,120
It's in the coaching world.

500
00:33:19,120 --> 00:33:24,638
Uh, so we also train and mentor other coaches to develop their skill sets and their business and lifestyle as they

501
00:33:26,580 --> 00:33:26,860
Got it.

502
00:33:26,860 --> 00:33:30,494
And so how do people reach out to you on that to become part of your programs?

503
00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:36,620
Everything with me you can just see, probably see my name there, faisalinsan.com.

504
00:33:36,620 --> 00:33:37,340
You can go there.

505
00:33:37,340 --> 00:33:38,720
There'll be some gifts there.

506
00:33:38,720 --> 00:33:40,400
You can download a P- PDF.

507
00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:43,740
I usually run completely free workshops every 6 weeks.

508
00:33:43,740 --> 00:33:47,160
There's one coming up if this gets released by January 10th.

509
00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:50,120
Um, but I do these workshops every 6 weeks.

510
00:33:50,120 --> 00:33:51,120
They're completely free.

511
00:33:51,120 --> 00:33:52,580
They're 2hour workshops.

512
00:33:52,580 --> 00:33:53,960
They're more like coaching sessions.

513
00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:55,560
They're not webinars.

514
00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:55,640
Mm-hmm.

515
00:33:55,640 --> 00:33:58,510
I walk you through a process on certain key topics.

516
00:33:58,510 --> 00:34:10,280
This one is on relationships and influence, and then you'll get, actually with this one if you sign up, you get my course for vision building, strategic goal setting as a bonus, which I se- sell separately, and you also get another PDF.

517
00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:11,600
So you get lots of bonuses.

518
00:34:11,600 --> 00:34:14,608
Just drop into my website and you can start your journey there.

519
00:34:15,160 --> 00:34:15,740
Perfect.

520
00:34:15,740 --> 00:34:20,976
And so what's one piece of advice that you wish you had known early on in your journey if you had it to do over?

521
00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:24,180
Early on, so it was interesting.

522
00:34:24,180 --> 00:34:34,960
So when I saw a lot of these influencers and people who were, who I was, I was inspired by, they always stood on stage alone, and my brain never connected the dots in the first year.

523
00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:36,480
Like, I should be able to do that.

524
00:34:36,480 --> 00:34:39,660
But in the background, they were working with a lot of people.

525
00:34:39,660 --> 00:34:41,270
They had a whole community.

526
00:34:41,270 --> 00:34:42,290
They had partners.

527
00:34:42,290 --> 00:34:43,620
They had collaborators.

528
00:34:43,620 --> 00:34:49,100
They had coaches, mentors, so many people in the background, but they always appeared alone on stage, right?

529
00:34:49,100 --> 00:34:51,740
So to me it was like, well, if they can do it alone, I can do it alone.

530
00:34:51,740 --> 00:34:56,208
But the reality was that y- most, especially if you're doing some kind of online thing, you will feel alone.

531
00:34:56,980 --> 00:34:58,060
You will be in your corner.

532
00:34:58,060 --> 00:34:59,130
You will get in your head.

533
00:34:59,130 --> 00:35:01,320
So try not to do it alone.

534
00:35:01,320 --> 00:35:18,350
Find a group of people who are doing something similar and move for-- This is part of the reason why I built 2 communities, because even if you do one-on-one work with somebody, people usually get stuck when they go back to their own environment because they get reinforced with all kinds of thoughts that doesn't support them, all kinds of beliefs.

535
00:35:18,350 --> 00:35:23,740
They will-- They already have doubt, and that doubt gets amplified in their environment because other people don't know what they're doing.

536
00:35:23,740 --> 00:35:28,620
But then when you have feedback in a community that helps you move forward, 1, you will borrow their confidence.

537
00:35:28,620 --> 00:35:30,100
2, you will get a lot of feedback.

538
00:35:30,100 --> 00:35:34,900
3, you will see that this is actually possible, and you will get stuck, and who's gonna help you get unstuck?

539
00:35:34,900 --> 00:35:44,220
Usually, when people get stuck, they get stuck for months and years in their head, not because they don't have the solution, but they're not able to it, see it because they get stuck in their own head.

540
00:35:44,220 --> 00:35:45,760
Uh, so don't do it alone.

541
00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:49,040
Find a group of people, community, whether that's in my community or somebody else's.

542
00:35:49,040 --> 00:35:50,440
I'm not attached to that process.

543
00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:52,080
Don't do this stuff alone.

544
00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:53,968
Even if you have brick and mortar, find other business owners.

545
00:35:54,540 --> 00:35:57,918
Are those communities also visible on your website where people can join?

546
00:35:59,080 --> 00:36:03,240
Uh, so the way my program works, um, um, my community is very small.

547
00:36:03,240 --> 00:36:11,160
The way I operate is I-- Most people that come into any of my program, they've had about 2 to 4 hours of conversations with me.

548
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:16,700
That might look like they might come to my workshop, or it might be one-on-one call, depending on where it goes.

549
00:36:16,700 --> 00:36:18,460
I don't have any of my offers outside.

550
00:36:18,460 --> 00:36:21,680
Part of it is because I'm, I'm not looking for everybody in my programs.

551
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:26,780
I need to pre-qualify people, but they'll have to be in, in one of the settings with me.

552
00:36:26,780 --> 00:36:29,220
And the good news is that I do a lot of that stuff for free.

553
00:36:29,220 --> 00:36:35,400
They can go through any of the journey, and then if it feels aligned that they can be part of my, my community, great.

554
00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:37,880
Uh, we can talk about it after you see the value of it.

555
00:36:37,880 --> 00:36:42,640
If it doesn't, at least I can give you some recommendations around I'm Fairly Connected and the mentorship coaching programs.

556
00:36:42,640 --> 00:36:44,580
I can at least connect you with the right people.

557
00:36:44,580 --> 00:36:52,340
Again, my programs are not for everybody, but if it feels aligned with you and it's gonna give you results, it, it's probably gonna be one of the best things you're gonna do.

558
00:36:52,340 --> 00:36:55,680
But at the least, explore some kind of support.

559
00:36:55,680 --> 00:36:57,020
Uh, try not to do it alone.

560
00:36:57,020 --> 00:36:57,488
It's not worth

561
00:36:58,180 --> 00:36:58,760
I tried.

562
00:36:58,760 --> 00:36:59,560
No, I agree.

563
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:00,260
I've done the same.

564
00:37:00,260 --> 00:37:02,480
So I really appreciate you coming on.

565
00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:06,544
I think it was incredible information for everyone and, um- Thank you

566
00:37:07,260 --> 00:37:08,254
sincerely appreciate it.

567
00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:16,000
I, I appreciate you having me on here, and, and I hope your viewers got a lot of value here, and I'm happy to promote this wherever you want me to.

568
00:37:16,000 --> 00:37:16,580
Absolutely.