Are you in your 30s, 40s, or 50s and feel like you’ve hit a ceiling in your personal growth and income? It’s a common scenario, but there’s a way to break through. Your income and overall success in life are closely tied to two critical factors: your self-awareness and the quality of your relationships.

These aren’t just buzzwords—they are the foundation of how you experience life and achieve success. Let’s dive into how expanding your awareness and nurturing meaningful connections can elevate both your personal and professional growth.

The Importance of Self-Awareness

Self-awareness is often misunderstood. It’s not just about knowing your strengths and weaknesses; it’s about actively expanding your understanding of yourself in different roles—whether that’s as a parent, a leader, or a business owner. Look back five or ten years. Has your awareness of your own capabilities, emotions, and limitations grown? If not, it’s likely that your personal and professional progress has also stalled.

From ages 20 to 35, most people experience a steep learning curve. You’re building your career, navigating personal relationships, and developing your identity. This period is marked by rapid growth and, often, corresponding increases in income. But what happens next? Many people become complacent. They stop challenging themselves, and as a result, their growth—both personal and financial—plateaus.

Embrace Discomfort for Growth

True growth begins at the edge of your comfort zone. If you’re not feeling challenged or uncomfortable, chances are you’re not growing. Whether it’s starting a new business, learning a new skill, or tackling a long-standing fear, pushing yourself into unfamiliar territory is essential. This discomfort is the catalyst for breaking through the plateau and reaching your next level of success.

In Chinese philosophy, the concept of yin and yang represents the balance of opposites—like chaos and order. Without the chaos of pushing yourself into new areas, there’s no order or progress. Embracing this principle in your life means welcoming the discomfort that comes with growth.

Understanding the Role of Awareness in Different Life Roles

Every role you play in life requires a specific set of skills and a level of awareness. As a business owner, you need to understand not just your products and services, but also sales, marketing, operations, and systems. If you’re not pushing yourself to grow in these areas, your business will reflect that stagnation.

The same applies to your personal roles. As a parent, are you present and engaged with your children? As a leader, are you inspiring your team and driving results? Your awareness in each of these roles determines how effectively you can fulfill them, and ultimately, how much satisfaction and success you derive from them.

Relationships: The Foundation of Success

Now, let’s talk about relationships. The quality of your personal and professional relationships plays a pivotal role in your overall success and happiness. If your relationships are fraught with tension, miscommunication, or lack of support, it’s going to be nearly impossible to perform at your best.

Healthy relationships require continuous effort and a willingness to engage in open, honest communication. Whether it’s your spouse, business partners, or colleagues, the strength of these connections can significantly impact your focus, motivation, and ability to achieve your goals.

Long-Term Vision in Business and Personal Life

When it comes to relationships—especially business partnerships—think long-term. I don’t engage in partnerships unless I see the potential for a ten-year collaboration. Building something meaningful requires trust, mutual respect, and a shared vision. Short-term gains may seem tempting, but they often come at the cost of long-term success and fulfillment.

Invest in relationships that align with your values and goals, and you’ll find that your growth—both personal and financial—will follow suit.

Reflect and Take Action

So, where do you stand today? Are you pushing yourself to grow in every aspect of your life? Are your relationships fostering that growth, or holding you back? Take a moment to reflect and make the changes necessary to elevate your awareness and strengthen your connections.

If you’re ready to go deeper, download my free "Unlock Your Legacy Life Power Pack" at FaisalEnsaun.com. It’s filled with resources to help you expand your self-awareness and transform your relationships for long-term success.

Stay focused, stay committed, and keep growing.

— Faisal Ensaun, CHPC

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income is directly correlated with, how much you grow in your life.

Now, you might be in a place where you're, you're like 35 years old, 40 years old, 45 years old, or maybe even 50, and you've kind of plateaued in your life.

Um, why? Because it's actually, as soon as you try something new, it pushes you. It expands you. It makes you very uncomfortable. . But that's what it takes to grow to the next level of income, to the next level of self,

Hello, amazing investors. I want to talk about two things, only two things that actually determine the quality and success of your life. And the second one is probably the one that most people struggle And, but also the first one too. So wait for the second one because the second one really doesn't. It's the one that a lot of people struggle with. It's more complex and most people have no idea what to do with

so the first one is your own awareness as a human being, as a leader in different roles that you're in in your life.

For example, your roles could be your role as a father, as a mother, as a leader, as a team member, as a business owner. And also your awareness as a human being, generally. Um, and why is this important? Why does that determine the quality of your life and progress? I want you to think back to a few years ago.

Let's say 5 years ago or 10 years ago. What was your awareness of yourself and your roles in your life? More than likely you didn't have a lot of confidence compared to what you have now. And if you have regressed,

then there's a problem. You shouldn't be regressing, you should be improving. Now, the problem is that most people very slowly improve.

It also, uh, if you look at some of the, uh, if you look at the statistics around income for people, So income is directly correlated with, uh, with how much you grow in your life. Incidentally, this is why, um, uh, people's, most people's income grow from 20 years all the way to let's say 30 or 35 years old. Uh, maybe 40, pushing it to 40.

Um, why is that? Because the years between 20 to 30, 35, and maybe even to 40, you're growing the most. And what happens after 40 to 50, your income just stabilizes. And at 50, it actually starts to go down a little bit for many people. Why does that happen? Because the 20 to 30, You're recreating yourself constantly.

You're, you're having to, your awareness is being pushed. You have to learn how to be in the world. You have to learn how to connect with people. You have

to learn how to understand the world. Your awareness is constantly expanding. How you think about the world, how you think about yourself, how you think about others, how you Think about the things that impact you, your reaction to the world, all that is always challenged in moving forward.

You will grow a lot if you're aware, if you're there with, from the years 20, 30.

Now, you might be in a place where you're, you're like 35 years old, 40 years old, 45 years old, or maybe even 50, and you've kind of plateaued in your life. And you're trying to go into this investing world or business world, and you're finding that, you know what, it's, it's taking a lot for you to jump in.

Um, why? Because it's actually, as soon as you try something new, it pushes you. It expands you. It makes you very uncomfortable. A lot of fears come into the process. But that's what it takes to grow to the next level of income, to the next level of self, the next level of harmony, peace, all sorts of stuff.

Another way of putting it is that, uh, you might have heard the, the terms, uh, yin and yang from Chinese philosophy. You might have seen the picture around that, uh, with two fish type of shapes, uh, black and white, and then there's black and white alternatively inside each other. That's a universal principle.

Uh, that's a contrast principle.

Um, what does that mean that, uh, and, and I'll connect it to, uh, Unless there's chaos, there's no order. So unless there's struggle, there's no progress. which is the theme in human life.

So for you to create order at another level, you need to be open to chaos, which means you need to be open to fear, discomfort, disconnection, all sorts of stuff for you to get to the other side of peace, harmony, love, joy, growth.

Success and all those things. So what, how do most people deal with this? Well, how does it determine your quality and progress in your life?

Well, most people's quality of life is connected to the awareness they have.

And if you have, your awareness has plateaued, so has your life. The quality of your life has plateaued.

Uh, and the progress of your life has plateaued. Just like I, uh, I was talking about it.

So ask yourself, are you pushing yourself internally in terms of your thoughts, in terms of your emotions? Uh, are you around people who are teaching you consistently? Are you around people who are pushing you consistently?

Are you, uh, Putting better input in your mind. You're learning better things Are you challenging yourself to do things that you weren't doing before whether that's I don't know going for a marathon or traveling? More than you used to or going into uncomfortable places or trying and learning things Um, so that again, it comes down, there's a lot in awareness, but your awareness of who you are as a human being and within different roles determine the quality of your life progress.

Now, I'll talk a little bit about the, the, your role. So for example, your role as a parent, your role, um, as a father, let's say, or a mother, your role as a business owner. Like, those roles can push you only if you push yourself within those roles. So your awareness of the role, for example, as a business owner, you need to be aware that you need to develop certain skill sets.

The skill set around sales, around marketing, around operations, around systems. All sorts of stuff like that. If you're not pushing yourself in these areas, you're probably not growing. So what is your awareness within your role?

Now same thing in your awareness as a parent. You know that you need to be more present and connected to your kids.

They need to see that that you're there. Uh, you know that you need to provide for them. You need, you need to be there for your family at times, at your own detriment, uh, uh, in the short term, which means, what I mean by that is that you might have to sacrifice sleep at times. You might have to, to be tired and exhausted at times, but you're taking care of people around you that pushes you in your role, that teaches you resilience.

Same thing in your business. There are times where you might not see profit at all for a long time. What happens? You need to be aware of your fears. You need to be aware of all the struggles that you're going through. and push through. By push through, I mean connect to your purpose, your vision of what you're creating.

And instead of pushing through, actually let that vision and purpose pull you. But that takes courage. That takes an openness to courage to do that.

My connection is slow a little bit. Hopefully you're getting this.

The second most important piece is actually your relationships.

Which also connects to the awareness of course piece, but I'll put this as a separate point because it's complex enough to know yourself, who you are, your faith, your role, your skill sets, all that stuff that falls into awareness, your contributions.

Then the second piece of relationships can be even more complex, because we're complex enough to begin with. Our own thoughts and emotions are very complex. But then now you're dealing with other conscious human beings, or partially conscious human beings,

So, um, What happens with people? And the thing that comes in there is actually your emotions. Emotions are the things that makes human relationships very complex. Um, and on top of that, our subjective nature, our self centered subjective nature of how we look at life. So we tend to react to our own emotions, we tend to react to other people's emotions, whether those be our kids, our spouse, our um, business partners, our collaborators, other people in our life.

And what we, um, what you will learn is that, and I'm sure you're going through part piece of these that, that think about like a recent incident in your life. Maybe it was an argument with a spouse. Maybe it was a challenging situation with your kids. What was happening when you were going through that? I was, I had an argument this week with my wife and I was not in a good state, to be honest.

I was struggling and I had to give myself space. I had to go for a walk. I had to I couldn't focus to save my life. Why? Because we were working through something.

And it can be very exhausting. It can be very difficult. And there are a lot of fears that come in. Think about the days when you're having to take care of people and it's hard to do so. How much can you focus on your work? How much, how, how happy do you feel? How connected do you feel? It's hard, right? Uh, I bet you feel like you're struggling.

It's hard. It's tough. And, um, people are starting to wake up here. Um, so you might hear some sounds from trucks and all sorts of stuff around. I'm a little bit close to the road and this trail, but, and, um, Think about the time when you weren't aligned with your business partner or a deal you were in and you were trying to work with these collaborators and it wasn't working out, you weren't aligned.

How focused were you? How joyful were you? How much at peace were you? And that's, that determines how you feel in those moments, determines the quality of your life. Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't ever feel disconnected, or sad, or happy, unhappy, or angry, or frustrated. Those are normal human emotions, they come and go.

But, to the, the quality of those relationships, determine how you feel on a day to day basis. Whether you feel happy, motivated, connected, focused, and all those things are completely connected that most people underestimate that you're, and I'll give you two, two big relationships that you will deal with.

One is your relationship with your spouse, um, your wife, your husband will determine a big quality of how you move forward in the, How you focus on a day to day basis, how you feel, how confident you feel, how motivated you feel. A lot of people underestimate that. They will say that, no, no, no, I can, I can create those within.

Yes, of course you can create it with your awareness, but guess what? The person that you're trusting with most of your life, if they don't understand you, they don't accept you, they don't, Support you. They don't encourage you. Guess what happens? You feel disconnected inside. That's very common. Um, for the longest time, I used to think it was just me until I started working with hundreds of people.

Most investors, entrepreneurs, professionals, they have the same challenge. They feel really disconnected when they're not understood and heard by the closest person to them or supported by them. Same thing with your business partner. Your business partner, you're relying on a business partner to run a whole business.

You probably dedicate a huge amount of your resources, time, and energy into that. And imagine that's not going well. What's happening there? There's a break in communication. There's not alignment. How are you feeling in those days? You probably don't feel that motivated. You feel disconnected. Probably feel a little bit down.

You probably feel like you're being brought down a little bit. Why? Because these relationships determine a lot of how you feel, your emotions. And yes, a lot of you might say, well, no, it's, it's the meaning that we assigned to it or how we react to it. Yes, all that is true. Your awareness plays a huge part, but why make it so hard on yourself?

And this is why I do a lot of work to do due diligence. If you don't have a spouse or a life partner in your life, do a lot of due diligence in that area. Don't settle, find the person that's the best for you. Work on your relationships consistently. Same thing with your business partners or collaborators.

I don't work with anybody unless I'm thinking that I could potentially work with this person for at least 10 years, at least a decade. Why? And that number is going up every year. Why? Because I've learned it's actually very difficult to build relationships with people and nurture those relationships.

Human relationships require a lot of maintenance and work and nurturing. Um, It's not worth it to do something for a quick profit with somebody for three months or two months or six months. To me, that's not worth it, even if it's something that's profitable. Um, what I'm saying is that whenever you connect with somebody, if you can't answer this confidently that I see myself working with this person for the next ten years, Get out of that because there are doubts that you have that you, you're, you're, you're subcon, it's in your subconscious.

You don't feel confident, comfortable. There are red flags that are there, but you're ignoring them for the sake of profit in front of you. It takes a lot to build relationships. This is why whenever I collaborate with somebody, I tell them like I'm looking for a long term relationship. I don't, I'm not looking for short term gain and I will actually sacrifice a lot of short term stuff for getting something long term.

By the way, that's how business works. Anyway, uh, investing works like that too, where a lot of what you're going to gain is 10 years out, five years out, 20 years out, 15 years out. Um, you will make millions in 10, 15 years out, but if you focus on the short term, you might gain a little bit of profit, but you're going to lose a lot of time, energy and effort working with partners that will not help you move forward.

So I'll leave it at that.

Those are the two major factors, your awareness and your relationships. Ask yourself.

What is, how would I rate each one of my major relationships, especially with my spouse, especially with my business partners and collaborators, but, uh, I'll add a couple other ones, your kids, your family and friends, those determine a lot of the quality of your life.

But ask yourself, how can you improve those relationships? And of course, if some of those relationships are abusive or something like that, you have the right to get out of that situation, um, as a human being, as a free soul.

But um, I'll leave it at that. I love this tree behind me with the sun shining on it. Uh, so remember, ask yourself how, rate yourself and all your relationships on a scale of one to 10, what needs to be improved? Rate yourself and your own awareness within different roles that you have. How aware are you of the skill sets you need to build?

How aware are you of your emotions on a day to day basis? How you feel? Are you dealing with those things that make you upset, frustrated, angry? How aware are you of the actions that you're taking on a consistent basis? The things that don't feel aligned with you. Do you keep going towards them or are you dealing with them?

Are you working through them? Um, uh, and When you become aware of your progress, your, that is connected to your, uh, to your awareness, the quality of your life, your thoughts, your emotions, that changes a lot of things. When you become aware of your relationships, business or personal, that completely transforms your life,

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